Yey! Happy 4th birthday to us, my love! ^__^
<img class=”wp-image-1220 size-large” src=”https://sidewalkmusingsandgeniuses.files.wordpress.com/2015/10/photogrid_1443510413969.jpg?w=660″ alt=”Fourth Anniversary Fourth Anniversary ❤
Parang dati lang talaga, di pa tayo nagpapansinan! Hahah. I am truly grateful to God that it’s with you I got to celebrate this kind of life’s blessing! And while I am still no expert on love, I just wish to share a testimony on how we’ve reached the fourth year milestone in our relationship. I greatly believe that love is a verb; a daily decision to steer your every action to purposeful dedication to the person you wish to stay with in a steady relationship. Hindi naman puro pasweet sa love, hindi puro kilig, pero hindi rin naman totoong walang forever. I learned that love is a choice to be made every day, a resolve inspired by God and guided by your goals for the future. And before this gets either way too serious or cliché, here’s my 4 lessons from our four years together.
Very self-explanatory. I wouldn’t have stayed with Aljhon all throughout this time if he doesn’t still attract me. Whenever I caught myself smiling because he smiles, that’s when I know that I’m still in love with him, and I still feel blessed to have him as my partner. This also involves the kilig I feel every time he looks at me, or the way I feel jealous whenever some girls would try to get too close with him or when we didn’t have enough time together. Love, as equaled to enduring attraction, open communication, giving gifts, having dates, and just spending quality time, is a must to every relationship. Love must be tendered and protected, for it to grow and flourish.
I now know that good friends make great lovers, though it may doesn’t fully apply to all kinds of people. Friendship, with the right balance of similar interests, hobbies, and preferences, is a key ingredient to a lasting relationship. When we were just starting, Aljhon and I made sure that we got to know more of each other through constant conversation and even tampuhan. By choice, we made spending time with each other a priority, and seek to enjoy every moment. We joined groups and events together, did new things together, and tried new places together. We built tradition inside our relationship, and stayed loyal to them. We trusted each other for our secrets, our innermost thoughts, and even the darker side of us. And we also fight. We fight for the little things, and the big ones. We debated and discussed, and then prayed together for a resolution. But we also do not forget the people outside our little circle. We spent time with each other’s families, and maintained friendship with them as well. And by friendship, we made sure that his friends and family become mine, and mine his. We tried to go to each other’s gala with friends, and tried harder to let each one go kung hindi maaaring magplus 1 sa galaan. And that bond makes us stronger and more comfortable not just as a couple but as a happy individual.
This may be one of the basic foundations of any relationship, and in our case, or my case, this refers to the faith I have in him and in our relationship. Even from the start, he knew that I am a no-fool kind of girl friend. Ayoko higit sa lahat ang komplikasyon (i.e. EX), kaya pinaalam ko na sa kanyang kaya ko gawin ang lahat para maging mapayapa ang aming relasyon, basta kaya niya ring maging matino para sa akin. I trusted him, first with my yes, then my heart, and now, my future. I trust him every single moment I say “I love You” to him, as well as every time we have a fight. I have faith that he truly loves me, and all my efforts to be loyal and mabait at ideal na girlfriend, are all worth it. I am confident that even though we could hurt each other with words, indifference, inattention, or coldness, we will still make up and love each other again. I have faith in our relationship, and in the dreams that we are building together. Most importantly, I have full trust and confidence in God that He’s the scriptwriter and director of our love story, that He also has faith in our relationship. How can I dare doubt that?
While love makes the relationship sweet and meaningful, friendship makes it fun and alive, trust makes it grounded and secured, commitment wraps it all up. For me, commitment is the most vital aspect of a relationship, for it connects and gives sense to everything. Four years ago, when I finally decided to give up my NBSB status, I have been praying for only one thing: that God always guides my heart to commit myself to Aljhon and the relationship that we’ll be starting. I am not a big fan of trial-and-error or learning-from-mistakes process, and my love life definitely tops the list of the things that I didn’t want to have regrets with in my life. And so, everyday as I pray, I learn to commit to Aljhon and in our love. I commit to love him and be loyal to him at all times. I commit to understand him and forgive his shortcomings and mistakes. I commit myself to be a better person, that I may always deserve the love he is also offering. I commit myself to our shared values- honesty, respect, faithfulness, and even thriftiness. I commit to make him happy and secured, I commit to make him always my priority. I commit myself to Aljhon because I love him, and I know that loving and serving him is also a calling gifted only by God to me.
<img class=”wp-image-1226 size-large” src=”https://sidewalkmusingsandgeniuses.files.wordpress.com/2015/10/20150929_210158.jpg?w=614″ alt=”Solido since 09.29.11 Solido since 09.29.11 ❤
Love. Friendship. Trust. Commitment.
I may not be a world-famous expert on love and relationship, but I know that these four made, and continue to make, our relationship as wonderful and steady as it is now. We don’t have a perfect relationship, but I could say that we are mature in dealing with our issues and emotions.We honor each other as well as these four values. We strive to make these always present, because we are intent on staying together forever. Finally, I know that God is in the center of it all. I know that He’s behind our love, friendship, trust, and commitment. And just by knowing that, I know, forever does exist.